Anonymous said: I need some relationship advice. So iv been dating this girl for like 1 year. We are pretty perfect but we fight. All the time to be exact. We are both 17. But we were best friends before we dated. We were like texting and talking on the phone all the time and smoking weed together and stuff then I liked her. But I didn't wanna tell her. She is best friends with this other girl and my guy best friend is dating the other girl. The three of them were hanging out and he texted me saying she likes
me so I asked her out and boom one year later here we are. But my sophomore year in my history class which this is 2 years ago. A girl walked in. I thought she was the most gorgeous girl to ever exist. I have like 4 classes with her now and only one with my girlfriend. All we do is fight. But I’m like in love with this other girl. Every time I look at her at class I catch her looking at me. Or she smiles at me. I try not to stare to much but she is so beautiful. We don’t talk much so I know she isn’t being friendly and she is kinda shy. I promised my girlfriend I would never break up with her and she promised the same to me. I wanna date this other girl but I can’t leave my girlfriend. Like I love her so much I can’t lose her. I’m so attached but I think the other girl is just flat out perfect. I, afraid if I break up with her and try to get with the other girl and she doesn’t want me then I will have nobody. I recalled dont know what to do. Please help me out please :)
People like you who are so fucking clueless when it comes to relationships piss me off so bad. And the sad thing is that it has nothing to do with age. People are fucking clueless all the fucking time.
Let me break this down for you:
First problem: "We are pretty perfect but we fight. All the time to be exact." No couple is perfect. What are you fighting about? If nothing is done to change the situation you’ll continue fighting forever, and if you’re not willing to change then break up.
Second problem: "A girl walked in. I thought she was the most gorgeous girl to ever exist." I’m not saying that you’re not allowed to find people attractive just ‘cause you’re in a relationship, that’s absurd, but talking about someone other than your girlfriend like that is not cool in my book.
Third problem: "I have like 4 classes with her now and only one with my girlfriend. All we do is fight." You’re now trying to justify your liking this girl to yourself by bringing up the fighting again in combination with the fact that you see a lot of this girl. And I’m pretty sure it’s you you’re trying to convince and not me.
Fourth problem: "But I’m like in love with this other girl." Well there you fucking go. Problem solved.
But wait, there’s more!
Fifth problem: "I promised my girlfriend I would never break up with her and she promised the same to me." How are you supposed to keep a promise like that? That’s the stupidest thing I have ever heard. A relationship is supposed to be voluntary and you obviously robbed your relationship of that as soon as you made each other that promise.
So what happens when you make a promise like that you might ask..?
Sixth problem: "I wanna date this other girl but I can’t leave my girlfriend." Do I really have to comment on this? Really? REALLY? How are you able to think these thoughts and not realize how fucked up that is? You are not doing ANYONE any favors by staying in this relationship. You deserve to be in a relationship you want to be in and God knows your current girlfriend deserves a hell of a lot better than what you’re giving her. Regardless of any promises you might have made in the past.
Seventh problem: "I, afraid if I break up with her and try to get with the other girl and she doesn’t want me then I will have nobody." Well maybe that’s for the best then. Are you seriously going to stay in a relationship you do not want to be in just ‘cause you don’t want to be alone. Please grow the fuck up. I know it’s difficult to believe but staying with your girlfriend is 100000 times worse than breaking up with her at this point. I don’t care if you end up alone, that’s not my problem and it sure as hell shouldn’t be your main concern either. You have to think about what’s going on right now and from the looks of it you don’t want to be with your girlfriend and you’d rather give it a go with this other girl.
If you still don’t know what to do I’m sorry I can’t help you.
don’t leave the one you love for the one you like.